It Takes A Village…
By Joe Ulm
I was 22 years old when my first son was born. Back then I used to scoff at the saying “it takes a village to raise a child” because I believed having too many people involved in a child’s life was risky; it was more apt to water down the base of morals, values, and ethics I was trying to instill in my son than it was to help. Plus, I believed teaching all these things was my responsibility – it’s what parents were for. Looking back on it now, I can see where I was coming from, but I also see that thinking this way makes a lot of assumptions that aren’t true.
- It assumes parents have all the knowledge and tools they need to raise kids from the start
- It assumes parents have absolute control over the people their kids are around
- It assumes kids will always listen
- It assumes kids won’t disagree and/or develop their own opinions
The biggest assumption it makes is that parents don’t need help. And that’s dangerous because if we’re committed to raising our kids the best we can, we will need help, advice, and support along the way. Whether that help comes from family, friends, professionals, books, doctors, teachers, or the Internet, we don’t really parent alone.
The world has changed a lot in 28 years. Since I was 22. I think differently now. Now that I’ve been blessed with a daughter and another son.
Now that I realize how lucky I was to have so many wonderful people around me all those years ago; now that I still have so many wonderful people around me today.
After 28 years, this is what “a village” means to me today and I’m glad to be a part of it. I just use the word “United” instead. 😊
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