It's Not About You
By Joe Ulm
It’s Not About You
If you’re not a player, it’s not about you. It’s not about you when your son or daughter scores a hat trick or when they save the penalty kick to win the game. It’s not about you if you coach your team to an undefeated season, or if the team you coach hoists the President’s Cup. It’s not about you if you’ve donated 400 hours of your time to the team or if you played college soccer. It’s not about you if you’re a board member, club leader, or club administrator. Simply put, if you’re not a player, it’s not about you. Not here.
This is a perspective I believe does us all well because when we take our focus off the kids, it becomes about us in a way (no matter how small) and that takes a piece of the magic away from them. When it’s about us, we insert ourselves into our kids’ experience and their effort becomes our reward, or worse, their failures, our disappointment. When it’s about us, we attain greater status from their achievements and their triumphs become our own. When it’s about us, we forgo some of the magic we could experience or share generously with others.
As coaches, parents, and club leaders, we are able to create our own magic in so many places; at work, at home, with friends, through our hobbies, and more. Why in the world would we want to take even the smallest piece of their sports experience from our kids?
Stay United, everyone.