Of Course, Success Means….(Part 1)

Team success.

Of Course Success Means...(Part One)

By Joe Ulm

Team success.Imagine for a moment. Imagine that you are trying to accomplish something big, really big, life-changing big, and you need the help of 20 people to get it done. What kind of people would you want by your side? Can you picture them? Now, describe those people in just three words. Not easy, right? But humor me if you would, and give it a try. Got your three words? Cool. Now imagine you have 100 of those people around you. Or 1000. Or 5000. Feels like a pretty unstoppable force, doesn’t it?

This is what we’re building here at PSU. And it’s not just me, Lati, Cari, Erin, board members, and our coaches who are building it, but all of us. We use the words Passion, Skill, and Character here because we believe they best describe essential characteristics of success AND they’re easily understood by our players.  For example…

Take a team of 20 players. Each player on the team has a passion for the sport, is wonderfully skilled at it, and has the character to work hard, make sacrifices, support their teammates, and be resilient in the face of adversity. Not only will the team win a ton of soccer games, but they’ll also have a rock-solid foundation of skills they can apply to their other goals. Their dreams. The rest of their lives.

Now imagine that same team of 20 players has 80 parents, grandparents, siblings, aunts, uncles, and coaches supporting them. 100 people in total – all of them part of a Club of 1000. All of them part of a community 5000 strong.

Winning is part of being successful, for sure, and players here at PSU will win lots of soccer games. But they’ll also do a lot more than that. They’ll do big things, life-changing things. And their Passion, Skill, and Character will help them get there.  

Stay United, everyone.

Stay tuned for part 2 of this article next week!

Resiliency Series: Grit—Moving Beyond Failure

Grit is an important part of resiliency. What does “grit” mean to you? Deanna Marincic shares her thoughts on what this character trait means in this second interview “Grit: Moving Beyond Failure.”

Resiliency Series: How To Handle Stress & Pressure

Resiliency is a big key when it comes to what we need to help build in our kids. It helps us work through adversity and build grit. Take a look at our first interview with Deanna Marincic, licensed clinical psychotherapist and owner of the Gals Institute. Stay tuned for more interviews!

It Takes A Village…

It takes a village.

It Takes A Village…

By Joe Ulm

It takes a village.I was 22 years old when my first son was born. Back then I used to scoff at the saying “it takes a village to raise a child”  because I believed having too many people involved in a child’s life was risky; it was more apt to water down the base of morals, values, and ethics I was trying to instill in my son than it was to help. Plus, I believed teaching all these things was my responsibility – it’s what parents were for.  Looking back on it now, I can see where I was coming from, but I also see that thinking this way makes a lot of assumptions that aren’t true. 


  • It assumes parents have all the knowledge and tools they need to raise kids from the start
  • It assumes parents have absolute control over the people their kids are around
  • It assumes kids will always listen
  • It assumes kids won’t disagree and/or develop their own opinions 

The biggest assumption it makes is that parents don’t need help. And that’s dangerous because if we’re committed to raising our kids the best we can, we will need help, advice, and support along the way.  Whether that help comes from family, friends, professionals, books, doctors, teachers, or the Internet, we don’t really parent alone.   

The world has changed a lot in 28 years.  Since I was 22.  I think differently now. Now that I’ve been blessed with a daughter and another son. 
Now that I realize how lucky I was to have so many wonderful people around me all those years ago; now that I still have so many wonderful people around me today. 

After 28 years, this is what “a village” means to me today and I’m glad to be a part of it. I just use the word “United” instead. 😊

We are committed to providing resources to our PSU families, so we can learn and grow together. This is why we are bringing in the experts to share their thoughts. Don’t forget to check out the interview with our last expert, licensed psychologist, Patric Mattek. Stay tuned for videos coming soon from our next expert Deanna Marincic, a licensed clinical psychotherapist.

Unusual Belief

Unusual Belief

By Joe Ulm

Belief is an odd thing. It suggests a confidence in something that’s not specifically justifiable. It disregards “the norm” in favor of the less probable; the unusual. That’s curious to me. Why would anyone do that?  

I’ve been ruminating on this idea of belief and how critical it is for our kids following my conversations with Patric Mattek and Deanna Marincic because it’s so relevant to all the topics we discussed:

  • The growing prevalence of anxiety in both children and adults
  • How anxiety affects performance in all areas of our lives (on the soccer field, at work, at home, etc.)
  • Tools both parents and kids use to manage our innate desire to feel a sense of control in our lives
  • What it means for our kids to be resilient and why it’s so important 

All these are affected by what we believe – and in particular, the belief we have in ourselves. Granted, this isn’t a particularly novel concept, but for all the novelty it may lack, it seems odd to me that it should be so rare. Here again, that’s curious to me. Yet, I’m also encouraged because we can help our kids with all these things. We can provide options, ideas, tools and resources to help with anxiety, confidence, performance, control, and more. We can do this even though it’s not “the norm” for a soccer club and even though it’s unusual. Because we believe.

I don’t have an answer about where belief comes from, but the one thing I do know is that it’s as important as ever. Maybe even essential. For our kids. For us. For our community.

I hope you’ll take a moment to watch the conversations with Patric and the upcoming video series with Deanna. If you do, I think you’ll see where I’m coming from… and how important it is that we stay United.